Joint Couples Work
Cathy Henschel-McGerry and I have worked together seeing couples for over twenty years.
We are licensed marriage and family therapists who can see couples jointly. Some couples find that working with a couple rather than an individual enhances their feelings of safety and balance in doing this work.
I also see couples on my own, which some couples prefer.
Intimacy can grow when there are two people who manage to maintain their separate sense of existence and simultaneously maintain their interest in the experience of the other. Sometimes couples aren’t looking to come together but to separate with mutual respect and empowerment. It is true that even when intimacy isn’t the goal, these abilities to honor your separate identity and that of the other and to be interested in their experience as well as your own, is important.